"You are intimidating." This is probably one of the biggest things I've heard as my 'first impression' with new people over the years.
It used to bother me and make me feel bad, so I'd say "oh I am so sorry I made you feel that way." Then I realized that I'm not responsible for other people's feelings. I found myself apologizing for the way people felt because my personality is very type-A and I have a get-shit-done-attitude. Doesn't that seem a little backwards?
DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR BEING YOU
When I'm at work or really anywhere, I'm generally there for a specific purpose and I'm committed to the purpose until it's over. I've always been that way and I can see how that might come across intimidating, but what if instead people thought of that attitude as dedicated or driven? That might make you think differently if you see me running around Target with a cart full of random shit to try to put decor around our house, but really just not sure what's going to work so I grab it all and walk like I'm on a mission which I am.
Okay so now that I've rambled for a minute, my point to all of this is that you shouldn't apologize for being you. Last summer I met with an Indy local who had me take a personality test for part of a collaboration. It highlighted my strongest traits and we talked through how I should focus on those. Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, what if you just became a master at your strengths? You can click here to read more from that post.
You guys, YOU are the only YOU there is. There is no one else on this Earth like you. We do all have traits that are less favorable than others and it takes some self-awareness to recognize those. But please, don't apologize for being you and who you are. More than likely, a combination of your traits has lead you to the rockstar you are today.
Cheers to recognizing who we are and celebrating that,
Side note: If you see me out in public, please come up and say hey. I love to meet you guys face to face and even more, I appreciate being able to break that social barrier that digital marketing creates. I enjoy being able to create connection in real life. See you soon.