Happy New Year, rockstars! As we sat around on the couch last night in our sweats with friends that are more like family, I couldn’t help but be excited for the start of 2019. A new year allows us to have a fresh perspective on goals we want to accomplish and the direction we want our life to go in the next 365 days.
One of my big monthly goals for this year is to allow more space for self care and for me, that starts with self love. I am going to have more positive conversations with myself throughout the day and I’m going to say them aloud. Instead of laying in bed at night thinking about all the things I didn’t accomplish that day, I will congratulate myself on what I did well. Instead of looking in the mirror and pointing out my uneven hips and asymmetrical face, I will say “Steph, you look fabulous today.” Instead of scrolling Instagram and thinking “I’ll never be as good as X,” I will say, “Steph you are the only you that exists and that’s so special.”
The power of words of affirmation is insane. It’s my love language so it only makes sense that if I’m lifting others up with my words, I should certainly be lifting myself up too. Words of affirmation… it’s how I show love, but it’s also how I need to receive love even from myself.
I remember a day a couple of months ago when I was in a rut. I had an event to go to that day and I felt awful about myself because I was caught up in the comparison game and I hadn’t taken the time to breathe all week. The negative self-talk took over and during that event, my normal optimistic, bubbly personality didn’t shine. Instead, people met someone who was not feeling confident in her own shoes that day. I could hardly hold a conversation because I was so distracted by feeling like I didn’t fit that I could barely keep it together.
Fast forward a couple of weeks to when I decided I was tired of feeling like this. I was so done with not feeling confident that I decided to change the path I was on. I got a massage, had a facial, got a spray tan, did my hair and makeup and got my shit together. I like to pamper myself when I’m in need of some serious self care, but something still didn’t feel quite right. I was forgetting to tell myself how good I looked, how healthy I felt, how accomplished I was.
When I got back into my 5 minute journal and meditation, I started seeing all the good in my life. I was recognizing my accomplishments, even if all I did that day was three loads of laundry and cleaned the bathrooms. I was feeling grateful for the goodness in front of me and I started love myself again. When I love myself, I’m able to love others deeper, perform in my work at a higher quality, and create in space that feels good and positive.
This year, I’m kicking off the #LoveYourself31 challenge and I hope you guys will get in on the action. Everyday in the month of January, I’ll be posting a different photo of myself with makeup, without makeup, whatever I want that to look like. In the caption, I’ll be sharing a different words of affirmation statement followed by a short story and the hashtag, #LoveYourself31.
Here’s how you can join:
Share a photo of yourself on Instagram or Facebook
In the caption, share your words of affirmation statement, positive phrases you tell yourself that make you feel good.
Use the hashtag #LoveYourself31 AND tag me @trendyinindy so I can share.
You can do this one time or everyday with me. The more you practice self love, the better you’ll be at lifting yourself up because it will become a habit.
I’m excited to see what words and phrases you use to give yourself some TLC.
Cheers to a new year and a more self-loving headspace,