Being female entrepreneurs is tough work. I’ve been battling with the direction I want to go, what my goals are, and what I really love over the last few months. But what really drags me down… the lies I tell myself.
As a business owner, it’s easy to get trapped in your own thoughts. You tell yourself things that just aren’t true and you start to believe these insane lies. Below, you’ll find a few lies we all tell ourselves as female entrepreneurs and the truths behind them.
5 LIES FEMALE ENTREPRENEURS TELL THEMSELVES
So and so does it better than me. STOP RIGHT THERE. The moment you start comparing is the moment you’ve swerved out of your lane and into the car next to you and CRASH. The truth is: you are the only YOU there is. Your business was built because of your vision, not someone else’s. If you started your business because you wanted the success or life of so and so, well, you started for the wrong reasons in the first place.
I don’t have time. This is the biggest lie of all. We have time for the things we are passionate about. If you truly don’t have time for something, then is it really that important to your success or overall happiness? Prioritizing is critical to building your empire, but when you find yourself saying “I don’t have time,” ask why. Do you not want to do it? Is it important to you? Have you filled your plate with other passions? Sure, there are times when I’ve told friends I can’t hang out, but that’s because I’m busy running with my crazy ideas and the good friends stick around to drink wine with you when you have a free second.
I’m going to fail. If that’s your attitude you probably will. Our brains are powerful little suckers and can cause us to question something we haven’t even tried yet. Have you ever read a bad Yelp review for a place you’re visiting and it automatically clouds your judgement? It likely has a direct impact on your experience even if yours is mostly positive. The same theory applies here. If you think you’re going to fail and allow fear to take over, it will not go well for you.
I’m a bad mom. I’m not a mom yet, but I’m friends with quite a few mompreneurs who often experience guilty mom syndrome. But, what I always say is that your kids are watching you work your butt off. You’re showing them what it looks like to work hard for something you’re passionate about. Don’t miss the big things and always make it a point to put the phone away and really spend time engaging with your babies.
I won’t be financially stable. This is a lie because as smart female entrepreneurs, you would not allow yourself to get to this point. Don’t get me wrong, starting your own business has upfront costs and monthly costs, but that’s why you budget. Hire a bookkeeper or someone who can help you manage money if finances aren’t your strength.
If you're telling yourself some of these lies, try to change your thought process. When you start to think that you're failing, turn that into "I am going to be hugely successful." If you are comparing yourself, tell yourself "I am awesome and I am the only me there is." Find those positives to shift your mindset.
Cheers to all the female entrepreneurs out there and a successful week ahead!