When Life Gives You Lemons
I know you've heard this saying at least once in your life. I can't say I love the saying and I will explain why below, but I do love this top and thought it made for a fun blog title.
Okay so let's talk about this phrase: "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade." Let me just preface this by saying that I am all about the optimistic, can-do attitude that this phrase promotes. However sometimes life just throws a lot of really sour lemons at you all at one time and it's okay wallow in self pity for a little bit.
For those of you who don't know, my family lost our small business in 2010 just before my senior year of high school. My dad invested literally everything we had into the business to save it leaving our family with very little and forcing us into personal bankruptcy. Mind you, my parents are in their 60s and my dad just turned 70 in December.
I wanted to go to a small, private college. No, I WAS going to a small liberal arts school, Butler specifically, and no one was going to tell me differently. But, I remember the multiple break downs I had that year thinking that I wasn't going to be able to make my dreams come true. The fights I had with my mom that nearly tore me apart. It was just a rough year.
A year later, we found out that my brother had decided to experiment with drugs and that once again nearly tore our family apart. I think we all have a different view on this now (at least with weed) than we did in 2011, but at that time, our world was falling down.
2012, 2013, and 2014 followed with more money struggles in which our cars were evaluated to see their worth to help pay off debts as was our house. Brad (my brother) dealt with the same college struggles that I did as he also wanted to attend a private university. Thankfully during this time, my dad found a job and my mom went back to work part time.
In 2015, my dad had emergency open heart surgery, a 5 way bypass to be specific. Stress coupled with heart disease almost caused a major heart attack. The job he has requires him to lift quite a bit of weight and the doctor told him he would be off work for the next 6 weeks. Another set back.
Okay so why am I telling you all of this? Our family has been through a lot of shit in the last 7 years and honestly it's not completely over. When people say "well when life gives you lemons, make lemonade" sometimes I just want to say "f off." It's okay to cry, break down, not feel like getting out of bed, not knowing where to go from here. But at some point, you do have to make the decision to pick up the pieces and move forward.
I worked 2-3 jobs throughout all of college to make Butler a reality and I graduated Cum Laude. My brother has been an RA to help with housing costs at school. We both studied abroad and figured it out. When you're ready to pick up the pieces you will. And if you don't feel like you can do it by yourself, find some kind of support system through friends, family, God, therapy, yoga, whatever works for you.
So I would propose a rephrase: "When life gives you lemons, suck the sour out even though it might hurt, and figure out where you want to go from there."
Here's to a great rest of your week and sucking the sour out when you're ready.
PS: Here are some other funny quotes I like better.
"When life gives you lemons, make grape juice. The sit back and watch as the world wonders how you did it."
"When life gives you lemons, freeze them and throw them as hard as you can at the people making your life difficult."
"When life gives you lemons, don't make lemonade. Make life take the lemons back."
"When life gives you lemons, grab tequila and salt."
"When life gives you lemons, add vodka."