Stop comparing and just be you.
Well I am sure you have probably heard this statement or something similar at least 100 times, but has it ever really stuck? It's taken me a long time to just be comfortable in my own skin and believe me, I am not all the way there yet. This blogging world isn't necessarily new to me in the aspect of writing, but in the world of having a social influence and making a difference, it is foreign territory.
I started my blog in February, dropped it for about two months, and then started up again around the end of April. I find myself constantly comparing myself to other bloggers, wanting as many followers as they have, getting as many likes as they do, and really wanting to do some big collaborations. Lately, I have been so frustrated and hard on myself because I feel like I am not getting where I want to go fast enough. I find myself not being content, always wanting more, and being more negative than positive.
So today I spent some time reflecting and remembering what all my years of dance and leadership positions have taught me. At some point you have to realize four things:
- You are not anyone else except yourself.
- You are in control of your life and where you want it to go.
- Big things come with time.
- Not everyone will support you, "get" you, or like you.
You are not anyone else except yourself. I live and work in a world of constant judgment and comparison. In the fashion industry everyone wants to be the best and everyone is constantly comparing themselves to others (including me). But here's the thing, the designers I have met and friends I have made who stick to their morals and values are far more successful and seem to be happier than those who try to be someone they are not.
You are in control of your life and where you want it to go. Well you and God if that's what you believe. But regardless, you make your own choices and decisions that can ultimately make you successful or not. If you aren't happy with something, you have the power to change it.
Big things come with time. I am not sure why I expected to start this blog and think I would have this huge following and really make a difference within just a few months. Patience is so important when you are starting something new or learning something new. Just try really hard not to give up on yourself before you even give it a chance.
Not everyone will support you, "get" you, or like you. Well this is possibly the most difficult for me. I am always searching for acceptance and I always prefer to be liked in the world I am in or group I am leading. If you've ever held a leadership position, you know that support from all is just probably not going to happen. So in regards to blogging, I am learning that not everyone will like my style or what I have to share and that's okay. In regards to life, a leader doesn't need to be "liked" but they should be respected or no one will follow.
So, learn to stop comparing and just be you. Find something to be positive or happy about even if it seems miniscule. Moving forward I am trying to focus less on my number of likes and more on why I wanted to start this blog in the first place and we will see where the road takes me.
Happy Sunday friends.